5 lessons I learned in my early 20’s.

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I recently turned 28 years old in July. My life has changed a lot and is dramatically different than it was 5 years ago. I feel more at peace with myself than I have in a long time and am so ready to begin a more reassured and confident chapter of my life.

Today, there are a few things I would like to share and I hope someone can learn from my experiences or maybe relate withthem.

GRATITUDE

Gratitude can turn ordinary things into blessings and it is the easiest path to happiness. Don’t let the things you want make you forget the things you have. And there are honestly so many things to be grateful for; the education you have gained, good health, family, friends, your parents, food etc.

Take time to find the thankfulness in every situation. Once you are filled with thanks, find ways to express that gratitude in what you say and do. One of the easiest ways to feel happy is to make someone else feel it first.

FAMILY

Sometimes family can be toxic but most of the time these are the people who support and love us, the people we can confide in and trust.

I did not realize how much time I was not giving my family until the lockdown, I have learnt to be more hands on with my family because it is clear that them being out of sight can be a permanent reality at a moment notice.

“If you really care about a certain someone, make it a habit to show it,” -Christian Svanes Kolding .Little gestures, kind words. It’s not about constant contact, but more about finding mutual ways to share your life with the people you care about the most. And if you have a partner, show your love. Take nothing for granted.

CAREER

You are probably in your first or second job and earning some money and spending it in the name of ‘living your best life.’ But please FOCUS. Stop Distracting yourself with things that are going to hinder your productivity and growth. It also hurts your ability to learn skillsets that are actually valuable. Do not wait for the late 20s or early 30s when your friends are getting pay raises and promotions to start regretting.

And if you don’t know and you don’t have what to do yet, you have the greatest advantage of all — you get to be curious.

You get to discover things that other people might not know because they have tunnel vision. You get to explore and learn so many things. You still have time

You will never have this much energy, health this great, or this much disposable time again in your life.

CHANGE

Don’t say this is not for me, I would never do it, because you may and you will.

I used to say I would never volunteer or do anything for free. I am currently looking for a professional body to volunteer with aside my job.

Well I changed, and you will a lot in your 20s. Don’t write anything or anyone off.

You need to embrace change. Do not be afraid of change because It is the only constant. You are going to change in so many ways that you may not even recognize yourself and that only means that you are growing.

FRIENDS

Just because you were friends in high school or university doesn’t mean you need to stay as close. You’ll want and need different things from your friendships than you did in your early twenties.

As you develop into your true self, you’ll align with people who mirror that. Transition can be lonely, but you’re more likely to find real friends if you’re your real self.

However your early 20’s go, remember you are enough and there is a good reason why you were born. Learn from your past and keep moving.